THE TREATMENT (Part 06)


Beliefs & Practices, Masturbation - A disastrous problem faced by the youth / Saturday, December 26th, 2009

11. DU’A

Why cannot du’â be a treatment? Du’â is a guaranteed way of seeking a cure from that Being who is Kind, Merciful, Forgiving. Du’â means to implore and beg before that Being who is All Powerful and by whose command everything happens.

Verily du’â is the most beneficial treatment and it has many benefits, especially when a person earnestly makes those duâs which have been narrated from Nabi (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) by sincerely turning towards Allah Ta’ala , considering the times of acceptance. Allah Ta’ala says: “Call Me, I will answer you.” (Sura Ghafir, ayah 80)

Nabi (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Verily your Lord is Modest and Kind. When a slave lifts both his hands towards Allah, then He (Allah) feels shy to return them empty-handed and disappointed.” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi)

Ibne Qayyim (Rahmatullahi alaihi) presents to us the condition of this person in a unique style. He writes: “Such a person personally experiences himself to be like that boy who is in the protection of his father. His father provides him with the best of food, drink and clothes. He gives him the best training and causes him to progress to the degree of perfection. One day, his father sends him on an errand. An enemy confronts him on his way, kidnaps him and ties his hands behind his back. He then takes him to a foreign land. Here he is inflicted with injuries and tortured. He is treated unlike how his father treated him.

From time to time he recalls the kind treatment of his father. Whenever he reflects on his condition it stirs a burning anguish in his heart. He remembers all that which he enjoyed before. His enemy finally decides to kill him.

Suddenly he sees his father near him. He runs, throws himself and falls in front of his father seeking his help:

“O My Father! Help me! 0 My father! Help me! 0 My father! Help me! Look at my condition.” His tears roll down his cheeks. He embraces his father and clings to him while his enemy pursues him until he reaches him. The boy still clings and holds his father firmly.

Now would you say that the father will hand over his son in this condition to the enemy? Will the father allow the enemy to take his son? Definitely not. So then what is your thought about that Being who is more Merciful on His slave than a father to his son. Allah Ta’ala will most certainly help and protect that slave who advances towards Him, flees from the enemy towards Him, throws himself in sajdah before His Door, rubbing his forehead upon the ground beneath His Door, crying before Him saying: ‘0 My Rabb! O My Rabb! 0 My Rabb! Have Mercy. None can give shelter except Thee. None can aid except Thee. I am in need of Thee. I asked Thee. I am hopeful of Thee. You are the Place of Refuge and the Protector.”

How aptly has an Arab poet not said:

O You who sees the mosquito spread its wings in the jet-black darkness of the night, Who sees its hanging veins in its throat and the marrow in those thin slender bones! Inspire me with such repentance which will efface all the wrong I committed previously.

12. AVOIDING THOSE THINGS WHICH STIMULATE THE DESIRES

Normally, the natural desire in man remains stable as long as it is not exposed to those scenes and sounds which incite it. When it finds a stimulating factor – whether sound or picture – it is incited. At such an instance a person is forced to give practical expression to his desire. Now if a person does not have a wife in whom he can find tranquillity or such Imân which will contain this desire, then certainly, such a person will resort to this evil habit of masturbation…

Hence, it is necessary for those youth who intend to protect and cure themselves to abstain from places of temptation and evil and all other stimulating factors. Scantily clad, naked women should not be looked at.

Theatres and playhouses should not be visited. Serialized and evil films should not be viewed. Shameless and morally deprived songs should not be heard. Shopping centres or schools set aside exclusively for women should be avoided. Co-educational institutions should not be attended. Institutions where non-mahram teachers are employed should also be avoided. Evil magazines and newspapers should not be allowed into the house and shameless novels should not be read. Telephonic conversions with strange women should be avoided. A strange woman should not be addressed in a loving and soft tone. As far as possible a person should strive to avoid even the means of fitnah (misconduct).

A person who circles around the border is likely to fall therein. Strange is the condition of that person who intentionally stimulates his desire and inflames his natural impulse after which he goes to the Ulema saying: “I want a solution!!!, I want a taweez (amulet)!!!”

13. REMEMBRANCE OF DEATH

The remembrance of the demolisher of pleasures helps in sobering the intoxication of passions and desires. For this reason Nabi has encouraged the excessive remembrance of the destroyer of pleasures. Nabi (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) has said: “Excessively remember the destroyer of pleasures.” (Tirmidhi, Nasa’i, Ibne Majah)

Ibne Jawzi (Rahmatullahi alaihi) has said: “How excellent is the condition of he who remembers death, prepares for his salvation before he dies, occupies himself in the service of his Master, advances from his worldly possession that which will help him in the hereafter and inclines towards that house wherein there are eternal bounties and where the honoured are not disgraced.

“O You whose life comprises of limited breaths and upon whom there is a recording supervisor! Do not forget death, for death will not forget you. Remember your condition, 0 Neglectful person! The day you will be turned on the wash stand between the hands of those giving you ghusl. On that day your strength will disappear and your wealth will be snatched away. You will be taken away from your friends, prepared for your grave, handed over to the worms and deposited between the graves. Thereafter, a few tears will be shed upon you and you will be forgotten. O Neglectful person! If it were known to us that none will die from amongst us except an unspecified person, then too it is incumbent upon us not to allow our tears from ceasing to flow, out of fear for death. So how should we behave when we are convinced that none will remain alive from amongst us”.

“Hence, fear Allah Ta’ala, fear Allah Ta’ala, O Servants of Allah Ta’ala! Prepare for death as if it has come upon you and your wives have become widows, your children orphans and you have been separated from your family and friends.”

One Sahâbi was advised by Nabi (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) : “Remember death excessively, this will remove your inclination for other things.” In another Hadith it is reported: “Remember death excessively.

Whoever remembers death excessively his heart becomes alive and death becomes easy for him.”

Ibrahim Taimi (Rahmatullahi alaihi) says: “Two things caused the termination of all worldly pleasures in me. Firstly death and secondly the concern of standing in front of Allah on the Day of Qiyamah.” (Maut Ki Yaad)

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