She ponders as follows, “Had I been a man and he my wife I would have handled his case.” Together with this, let wives also realize the respect and honor due to their husbands as well. If at times they happen to over step the mark, bear in mind the honor due to them. Remember the position granted to them by Allah Ta’ala and in order to earn the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala forgive them. Consider service to them as one’s great good fortune. It appears in a Hadith, if a husband goes to sleep while displeased with his wife, none of her good actions will be accepted even though she spends the entire night knocking at Allah Ta’ala’s door with Tasbeehaat. Wives should also ponder and realize that the position granted to husbands is so high that, if permission was given for anyone to make sajdah or prostrate before a human, such permission would have been given to the wife in respect of her husband.
At this point we should ponder over our i’baadah. How much importance do we attach to it in Ramadhaan? How many nafl do we perform? As for fardh deeds, we observe how numerous people who after having eaten sah’ri get back into bed with the result that the Fajr ‘salaah is neglected. Many perform it, but not with Jamaa’ah. It gives the impression that we give thanks to Allah for the food we had eaten for sah’ri by not performing the most important fardh or by not performing it with Jamaa’ah. Such a ‘salaah has been termed defective. Rasulullah (SAW) said that, “There is no ‘salaah for those near the musjid except in the musjid”.
The harms of over-eating and its cure
Many sins are committed on account of over-filling the stomach. There are several factors which have to be taken into consideration:
(a) Do not become too accustomed to eating sumptuous meals.
(b) Safeguard yourself from harâm sustenance.
(c) Do not fill your stomach beyond its limit. Instead, set aside a bit of hunger which equals a few morsels.
Story No. 51: (Episode)
Hazrat Shaikh Abu Ja’far Had’daad R.A. the teacher of Hazrat Junaid Baghdaadi R.A. says: “I once stayed in Mecca in such a state that I could find no money with which to have my hair cut. At that time my hair had grown very long. I went to a barber; from his appearance, I took him to be a righteous man. I said to him: “For Allah’s sake; I ask you to cut my hair.” He replied: “Yes, I shall do it now.”
At that time he was busy cutting the hair of a seemingly unrighteous person. He stopped and first dressed my hair. Then he gave me a rolled up peace of paper. Wherein I found a few dir’hams. I accepted it and said to myself; that whenever any money came, I shall give it to the barber.
I went to the Haram, and there met a brother who said me; ‘I have bought a bag for you from your brother in Basra; kindly take it. There are three hundred sovereigns in it. He gives it to you for Allah’s sake.
I took that bag to the barber and said to him: “Here are three hundred sovereigns. Take it for yourself and spend it for your needs.”
He replied: ‘Dear Shaikh, are you not ashamed of yourself! In the first place you asked me to dress your hair for Allah’s sake, and you come and pay me for it; Go! I have forgiven you.”
Story No. 31: (Episode)
A lady came to hazrat Aa’isha R.A. begging her to let her see the grave of Rasulullah Sal’am in the room where he is buried. Hazrat Aa’isha R.A. pulled away the curtain and when the lady saw the grave she cried so bitterly and continuously that she died there. (shifa)
After Hadhrat Shuayb (alayhis salaam) had cautioned Hadhrat Musa (alayhis salaam) regarding the significance of the Staff of Nabi Aadam (alayhis salaam) which had now come into Hadhrat Musa’s possession, he (Hadhrat Musa) commenced his duty of tending to the goats of Nabi Shuayb (alayhis salaam). When Hadhrat Musa (alayhis salaam) was about to leave with the goats on the first day of his duty, Hadhrat Shuayb (alayhis salaam) warned him: “O Musa! You may take the goats anywhere to graze, but stay away from a certain location (which he explained). Never go near to that place nor ever turn your face in that direction. It is the abode of an extremely dangerous serpent which will harm the goats.
21. As far as is possible, make him learn under a religious-minded teacher.
22. Don’t ever allow him to absent himself from going to madrasah.
23. Set aside certain times in which you narrate stories of the pious to him.
24. Do not allow the child to look at books that contain love stories, stories that are contrary to the Sharî‘ah, stories that are obscene or that have no benefit, love poems, etc.
25. Give them books that cover the different aspects of the Dîn, and books that cover the necessary aspects of this world.
It is not permissible to eat or drink from gold and silver utensils. In fact, it is not permissible to forany purpose items that are made of gold or silver. For example, it is not permissible to:
(a) eat and drink from gold or silver utensils,
(b) clean the teeth with a toothpick made of gold or silver,
(c) sprinkle rose water with a gold or silver utensil which has been made for such a purpose,
(d) to keep surmah in a gold or silver utensil which has been made for such a purpose,
1. All alcoholic drinks are haraam and impure. The same rule applies to toddy (a drink that is made by adding hot water and sugar to whisky, rum, or brandy). It is not permissible to consume these alcoholic drinks even as a source of medication. In fact, it is not even permissible to apply medicines that contain alcohol.
2. Apart from alcohol, it is permissible to consume all other intoxicants on the condition that they are consumed only for medication. Furthermore, only that amount will be permissible which does not intoxicate the person. If a person consumes an amount that intoxicates him, it will become haraam upon him. It is also permissible to apply medicines that contain such intoxicants. Such intoxicants are: opium, nutmeg, saffron, etc.
It has been narrated by Hadrat Ata that once he asked Hadrat Aishah (Radi Allahu Ta’ala Anha) to tell him some very very curious thing about the Prophet (SallAllahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). She said: “There was nothing about the Prophet that was not extremely curious.”