Hazrat Hakeem ul Ummat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullah alaihe) says it is wrong to reject the intercession of Allah Ta’ala, when He is, commanding to treat a wife well. She is weak and far from her parents, she is at our mercy. After giving birth to a few children she becomes weak and the husband takes out all his anger on her because she did not do some work of his. Alas! Why have you thought her to be like your maid (servant), how about you doing it yourself for a change. You were not given a wife to work for you. If she does any work for you, it is through her kindness. So Allah Ta’ala is interceding for His bondswoman, that treat your wife well, whether she be young or old, even if her teeth have fallen and her face has wrinkled. Not that when she was young and beautiful you did everything for her and now that she has grown old you treat her terribly. This in not correct. Think of this old lady who has grown old with you. When she was young and pretty you loved her, now that she is old, love her thinking it to be the command of Allah Ta’ala, and be kind to her for the same. If she has a headache, bring medicine for her and be merciful towards her.
It is written in the discourses of Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullah alaihe) , an additional right concerning a wife is that she be given some spending money for her personal use every month and not be asked to account for it.
Fir’oun’s oppression and tyranny did not exempt even his wife, Hadhrat Aasiyah (rahmatullah alayha). She had accepted Imaan in secret with Hadhrat Haroon (alayhis salaam). She was from Bani Israaeel. She had accepted Imaan after Fir’oun had tortured and brutally killed the wife of his treasurer who had concealed his Imaan for a hundred years. His name was Kharbeel bin Nauhabeel. He had met the companions of the companions of Nabi Yusuf (alayhis salaam). In other words, he was a Taabi-ee of Nabi Yusuf (alayhis salaam). He and his wife were Mu’min. His wife was the chaperon of Fir’oun’s daughter. Once while she was combing the girl’s hair, the comb slipped from her hand. Saying ‘Bismillaah’ the chaperon picked up the comb. Fir’oun’s daughter was stunned by this exclamation. She asked: “Is there another god besides my father?”
By: Sheikhul Hadith Hadhrat Moulana Fadhlur Rahman Saheb
One must affirm that there can be absolutely no doubt in the fact that each and every Sunnah of our beloved Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is considered supreme and well worthy of emulation by a true believer of and follower of his esteemed lifestyle. In fact a true lover of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would be prepared to give his life for the practical preservation of even one Sunnah. A true Ummati of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is one who endeavors to emulate every Sunnah, whether it is connected to the Ibaadat (worship) of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or his habit or lifestyle (the manner of his eating, walking, dressing etc.)
This is the ruling of the 4 schools of thought viz. Malikiyah, Shafi’eyah and Hanafiyah and one riwayah (narration) from Imâm Ahmed. They have drawn their conclusions from the following proofs:
PROOFS FROM THE QUR’AN
Allah Ta’ala says:
“And those who guard their private parts save from their wives and those (slave-girls) which their right hands own – so there is no blame upon them. Then whoever seeks beyond that (which is lawful), they are the transgressors.’’ (Surah Al-Muminuun, Ayah 5 and 6.)
Hadhrat Abdullah bin Umar (Kadhiyallaho anho) narrates that he heard the Prophet (Sallallaho alaihe wasallam) saying:
“Islam is founded on five pillars: bearing witness that there is no god but Allah, and Muhammad (Sallallaho alaihe wasallam) is His servant and apostle: establishment of salaat: paying of Zakaat; performance of Hajj: and fasting in Ramadhaan.”
Asslam-o-Alaikum wa Rahmatullah-wa- Barakatuhu.
I am in receipt of your esteemed letter. Whatever you have written about Jihad can be summarized as this “If a non-Muslim state allows for preaching Islam in its country, Jihad against it does not remain lawful.” If this is what you mean, my humble self does not agree with it. Obstruction in the way of preaching Islam does not mean only a legal obstacle, but greater power or domination of a non-Muslim state against Muslims is by itself a great obstacle in the propagation of Islam. There are no legal restrictions in most of the countries today on preaching Islam, but since their grandeur and authority is established in the world, it has led to developing a universal feeling which forms a greater obstacle than the greatest legal binding in the way of free propagation of Islam.