Be very fearful concerning parents’ rights. Do not blabber to them out of anger because their curse affects a person to extent that one does not die without first suffering the punishment in this world. It is mentioned in a Hadith of Mishkaat Shareef that one who troubles his parents will never die without first being punished.(Mishkaat p.421)
1. It is mentioned in a Hadîth that of all the permissible actions, divorce is the most detestable in the sight of Allah Ta’âlâ. The meaning of this is that divorce has been permitted at times of necessity. However, when there is no need, it is extremely detestable. The reason for this is that the purpose of marriage is to foster mutual understanding, mutual love, and comfort for the husband and wife. Divorce wipes out all these factors, shows ingratitude to the favours of Allah Ta’âlâ, the husband and wife become distressed, and it results in mutual enmity. Based on this, it also results in enmity towards the wife, her family and her relatives. As far as possible, one should never ever intend to divorce one’s wife. In all their dealings, the husband and wife should try and accommodate each other and live with love for each other. However, if there is no way that they can live together, there will be no harm in divorce. Understand this well.
Here, the reference is to a person who passes on to others what he hears from someone in such a manner that will cause dissension among people. It is unanimously unlawful according to the opinions of the Muslim scholars. There are many proofs that maintain the prohibition of that abhorred action. The following are some of them:
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,
“He who stirs up enmity among people by quoting their words to each other will not enter paradise.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
Once the Messengers of Allah (pbuh) passed by two graves and said,
“O ye who believe! Intoxicants and gambling, sacrificing to stones, and (divination by) arrows, are an abomination, of Satan’s handiwork: eschew such (abomination) that ye may prosper. Satan’s plan is (but) to excite enmity and hatred between you, with intoxicants and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah, and from prayer: will ye not then abstain?” (5:90-91)
Gambling connotes backgammon, chess and speculation by nuts, balls, stones and all kinds of betting. It ranks under encroaching upon people’s rights that Allah has made forbidden in His saying,
Allah, Most High says,
“O ye who believe! Intoxicants and gambling, sacrificing to stones and (divination by) arrows, is an abomination, of Satan’s handiwork: Eschew such (abomination) that ye may prosper. Satan’s plan is (but) to excite enmity and hatred between you, with intoxicants and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah, and from Prayer: will ye not then abstain?” (Al-Ma’idah: 90-91)
Thus, Allah the Exalted forbids wine and warns us of approaching it.
The Prophet (pbuh) said,
“Avoid wine, it is the mother of abomination.” (Ad-Darqutni, An-Nasa’i and Al-Baihaqi)
Furthermore, if any of the partners will be doing more work than the others, it should be established as to whether he would be doing this extra work on a voluntary basis, or will he be compensated for the extra work. If he will be compensated, will it be in the form of an increased share in the profits, or will it be in the form of a specific amount of salary? In short, every aspect pertaining to the duties and rights of each partner must be clearly written down so that no ambiguity remains.
Often several brothers are partners in the same business. At times the father and sons are in the business together. Without any records being kept, all the “partners” take their expenses from the business and spend as they wish. However, the position of each person in the business is not clearly determined. For example, is the son or brother merely an employee in the business, or is he a partner? If he is an employee, what is his salary? If he is a partner, what is his percentage share of the profits? Without any of these aspects being clarified, each one draws from the business as pleases. If anyone dares to suggest that these aspects need to be clarified, his suggestion is frowned upon. This suggestion is regarded as contrary to the dictates of mutual love and unity.
If one wishes to have a vague idea of the number of disputes that occur in the community, one will get a glimpse of this from the number of cases that come to the courts on a daily basis. However, due to the high costs and the time involved in bringing a matter to court, the majority of disputes don’t even come to the courts. Rather the disputing parties try to grab whatever they can from each other, thus bringing about further enmity. The resultant animosity sometimes continues for generations.
The virtue of this night established from Ahadith is that from the very beginning of the night Allah Ta’ ala turns with special mercy and attention towards the creation and forgives those who repent and seeks forgiveness. Every Muslim should therefore value this night. Turn towards Allah Ta’ ala with sincere regret and shame over sins committed and make a promise never to return to sin again and seek forgiveness from Allah Ta’ala. Seek forgiveness for oneself and all Muslims, living and deceased. Have firm hope and resolution in the heart that Allah Ta’ ala will surely show mercy and forgiveness.