Be very fearful concerning parents’ rights. Do not blabber to them out of anger because their curse affects a person to extent that one does not die without first suffering the punishment in this world. It is mentioned in a Hadith of Mishkaat Shareef that one who troubles his parents will never die without first being punished.(Mishkaat p.421)
I met a very pious man in Bombay who had pus falling from his fingers and was affected with leprosy. When I inquired about it, the man replied, “I committed a grave mistake in that I shouted at my mother taking my wife’s part, while the two of them were having an argument, my mother cursed me that I should get this illness and that I should not be able to attend her funeral, and both things have materialized.” I have witnessed this incident with my own eyes. Therefore, be very careful concerning parents rights.
Another point to bear in mind is the rights of one from whom one has learnt Deen. Do not, till the end of one’s life dash his rights to the ground. Some display independence, in that they no longer maintain contact with the teacher. Some disappear for a month or two, others for much longer, even to the extent of years. Remember to fulfill the rights till the end of life of one from whom one has learnt even a single letter. Hadhrat Ali (radhiallaho anho) states “One who has taught me a single letter has enslaved me.”
Immaterial of the circumstances that prevail, even though one’s teacher, one’s spiritual guide scolds and reprimands one, never bear malice in one’s heart towards them. If at times they are harsh with one, do not bear enmity against them. Consider their reprimands, their scolding as being part of one’s treasure in the quest for Allah’s love. If, for one’s reformation, one is scolded by an Allah wala, consider it to be an investment in the account of love for Allah which He will definitely record. The love, which is for the sake of Allah, is a true love.