Etiquette in Muamalaat

Bahishti Zewar, Fiqh, Part 6-Etiquette and Manners, Reformation of the Heart, Deeds and their Retribution / Monday, December 6th, 2010

1. Do not be so greedy for wealth that you forget to distinguish between halâl and harâm. Furthermore, do not waste the halâl wealth that Allah has blessed you with. Instead, spend it sparingly and on occasions of true necessity.
2. If a person who has been afflicted with a certain calamity decides to sell something of his because he is forced to do so (i.e. because he is desperately in need of the cash), then do not oppress him thinking him to be in extreme need. Nor should you ask him to reduce the price of the item. You should either help him or purchase that item from him at an appropriate price.
3. If your debtor is poor, do not distress him further. Instead, grant him a respite. Waive a certain amount of the debt, or better still, waive the entire debt.
4. If you owe money to a person and you have that amount to pay him, then it is extremely sinful and oppressive for you to delay in fulfilling this debt of yours.
5. As far as possible, do not take up any debt upon yourself. If there is no alternative, then always be concerned about paying it back. Do not become neglectful in this regard. If your creditor tells you something (with regard to your debt), keep quiet and listen. Do not counter-attack him nor become angry.
6. It is a very evil habit to conceal something that belongs to someone jokingly and which thereby causes him great distress.
7. Once a labourer has fulfilled his task, do not display any shortfall in paying him.
8. At the time of famine, some people sell their children. It is harâm to turn these children into slaves.
9. If you provide fire-wood (or anything else such as a stove, coal, etc.) to someone in order that he may prepare a meal, or you provide salt to the person in order that she may use it to prepare a meal, it is as if you have provided them with the entire meal.
10. There is great reward in providing drinking water. If you provide drinking water in a place where water is easily obtainable, it is as if you have freed a slave. And if you provide this water in a place where water is scarce, it is as if you have given life to a dead person.
11. If you have to give or receive something from someone or you have someone’s amânah in your possession, then mention this to several persons. Alternatively, have this written down so that if you pass away, (all this will be paid) and you will not be owing anything to anyone.

1. As regards the marriage of your children, always try and ensure that it is with a religious-minded person. Do not be concerned about wealth and status. These days, many of those who are highly educated from western institutions utter things which amount to kufr. It is not permissible to marry such persons whereby the rest of one’s life is spent in immorality.
2. It is the habit of the majority of women to describe other women to their husbands. This is extremely evil. When the husband is attracted to one of these women (who has been described by his wife), this wife will then sit down and cry and regret her action.
3. If a proposal has been sent to a certain family and it is known that they might respond favourably, do not send
a proposal on behalf of any of your children. However, if the person abandons his proposal or they respond in the negative; it will be permissible for you to send a proposal there.
4. Allah detests it when the private affairs of the husband and wife are discussed with one’s friends and relatives. Many brides and bridegrooms are not cautious in this regard.
5. If a person consults you with regard to a certain person (whom he intends to marry or get married) and asks you for advice, then do not conceal any faults of that person if you have knowledge of them. In such a case, this ghîbah will not be harâm. However, do not unnecessarily find faults with a person.
6. If the husband is in a good financial position and yet he does not give his wife even the basic expenses, it will be permissible for the wife to take his money secretly. However, it is not permissible to take money in this manner in order to purchase something unnecessary or merely to fulfil and uphold worldly customs and habits.

Causing harm to someone
1. If a person is not a qualified doctor, it is not permissible for him to prescribe medicines in which there is a fear of harm. If he does so, he will be committing a sin.
2. It is not permissible to scare anyone with any weapon or dangerous object even if this is done jokingly as there is the possibility of the object slipping out of one’s hand (and thereby injuring the person).
3. Do not give a pocket knife to a person while it is open. Either close it and give it to him, or keep it down so that he may pick it up himself.
4. It is a major sin to enclose a dog, cat or any other living creature in such a way that it remains hungry.
5. It is an evil practice to ridicule or taunt a sinful person. However, there is no harm in advising him.
6. It is not permissible to stare or fix one’s gaze at an innocent person in such a way that he gets frightened. Note, if this is not permissible, how serious a crime it is to scare someone all of a sudden or “out of the blue”.
7. If you wish to slaughter an animal, ensure that the knife is extremely sharp. Do not cause unnecessary harm to the animal.
8. When travelling (on an animal), do not burden the animal excessively. You should not overload it nor should you impose it to run excessively. Once you reach your destination (or rest-place), you should first make arrangements for the animal’s fodder, grass, feed, etc.

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